An amicable divorce is not always possible, but all should strive for one. An amicable divorce will not only make your lives easier and save you money in attorney fees, but will result in an outcome you both are more satisfied with. Lower-conflict divorce will help you transition more easily after the divorce.
Be proactive: compile and provide all necessary information to your lawyer and urge your spouse to do the same. Then ask your attorney about the options of mediation and negotiation for reaching an agreement. Even if you are not able to settle all of the issues in your divorce, these actions can increase the likelihood of agreement on many of the terms of your divorce.